Chasing Ironies

A Note to Womankind

Posted on: May 26, 2009

I’ve been looking for this sort-of manifesto for years. One of my college professors sent it through e-mail, and I accidentally deleted it. I found it again at this site. Well, I edited it a bit.

  • Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Be who you are, know what you want.
  • Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. Will he do the same?
  • If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends.”
  • A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
  • Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
  • The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Submit only when you get married.
  • Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant why would he treat you any differently?


  • Always have your own set of friends separate from his. They were your friends before you two met.
  • Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
  • Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
  • You cannot change a man’s behavior. If you can’t deal with bad behavior get out before you get in deep.
  • Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are, even if he has more education or in a better job.
  • Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
  • Never let a man define who you are. Always know who you are and that you belong to you, and you only.
  • Never borrow someone else’s man. God said he will supply all your needs.
  • If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. And will continue to, he is not happy with himself, misery loves company and the devil always comes to destroy.
  • A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
  • All men are NOT dogs.
  • You should not be the one doing all the bending, compromise is two way street.
  • You need time to heal between relationships, there is nothing cute about baggage, deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
  • You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals look for some complimentary not supplementary.
  • Dating is fun even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.
  • Make him miss you sometimes.When a man always know where you are, and you`re always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
  • Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man.
  • Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
  • Don’t play with him. No means no.
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